#44 Stop Eye Rolling. Start Growing.

Big moments don’t come from big beginnings, they come from tiny, repeated yeses that nobody applauds. In this episode, Desireé picks back up with King David and pulls in 3 anchor passages to show how God trains our faith in the ordinary long before anything looks “important” on the outside.

We talk about the uncomfortable truth that God sees what others don’t and why that’s both comforting and confronting. I share a very real example of hidden disrespect in marriage (yes, the eye roll) and how “small” private moments can quietly grow bitterness if we let them. Then we pivot to hope: God also sees your faithful work, your unseen obedience, and the thousand invisible mornings where you keep showing up.

If you’ve been craving clarity, recognition, or a breakthrough, let this be your reset. Listen, share this with a friend who needs encouragement, and then subscribe and leave a review so more women can find practical biblical teaching that meets real life.

Transcript

Welcome And Podcast Purpose

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Ciao and welcome to Life Out Loud. I am your host, Desiree Melfi Bozo. We are going to use this space to share experiences and help you find lasting, unshakeable, unwavering, unmessable with joy and gratitude. We're going to be throwing around encouragement a little bit like confetti and giving you support to live your very best life. Ciao friends. Welcome back to the Life Out Loud Podcast. I'm your host, Desiree Melfi Boatso.

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This podcast and this little space on the airwaves exists to help women support them as they walk closer to Jesus through really practical, um, good, sound biblical teaching. So if there's somebody in your life that you think could benefit from this, pass it on to them. It is the most wonderful thing uh that you can do for me in compliment form is to bless somebody else from something that you found beneficial in here. So uh thank you. Thank you so much for your support, for your curiosity, and for most importantly, uh your greatest commodity, your time.

Faith Built In Small Moments

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Last podcast, we started talking about King David, and I want to continue with that theme. There's a few uh scriptures, uh about three, that I want to start pulling together for us. First Samuel 16. Then we're gonna pop over to Hebrews chapter 11 and Matthew 17 to 20. So without further ado, let's dive in. The message, the overarching big message is this that faith in the small uh is to be formed for the significant moments in our life. Sometimes in life, we want, we desire the big audacious thing before we're actually prepared to take it on. Um before uh the muscle memory starts to sneak in there and take hold. Uh recently here in the mitten, it is baseball season. And our son, super proud of him, little brag moment, uh, made the travel baseball team big endeavor. And right now we are like up to our ears in batting technique and where, you know, how you channel all of your power behind the barrel, that bat and you know, technique, hip, shoulders, twist, all the things. And before he can get up, he wants so much to get up, you know, to the plate and just crank one out and all the things. But before he does that, it's a hundred thousand tiny reps in the driveway off a T, hitting into the net of like technique and of muscle memory and of all those things. And so I'm literally seeing this play out in real time through through my son, right? We want this, we want to hit the home run, but we gotta make sure we're holding the bat right first, you know. Uh, other times, right? So that's one one way we do life. Other times we desire this clarity and this clear path. I see it all the time in the world of entrepreneurship where I live and breathe and play and work and all the things. Um, we want we want A to Z. We want to know how we're gonna get there, how it's gonna happen, but we're building the plane as we're flying it because God's only given us A, right? Or maybe it's even all the stuff that comes before A, the idea before you can even get to A. And so um, that's another thing. God needs us to do step A really well before He can show us the next place to go. It's in this repetition, it's in this muscle memory, right? Faith and obedience in small, tiny, seemingly insignificant moments. That's what this is about. It's um from here that I really want to start this conversation.

God Sees The Hidden Things

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So the first thing I want to spend some time talking about uh is that God sees what others don't. Okay. He sees the thousand invisible mornings. That's like my favorite quote. Uh, champions are built on a thousand invisible mornings. You're welcome for that motivation that will hopefully get you out of bed when the sun has not yet woken up. Uh, so God sees what others don't, but here's the thing: it's a double-edged sword because he sees the really good, but he also sees the really ugly. Um, the ugly is the secret sin that no one else sees. It's just like your kind of thing that nobody else has to know about. It's the guilty pleasures that hang out in the pantry uh in the form of carbs and sugar. Just one little morsel of goodness, right? It's not, it there's a bigger plan at play there. Uh it's the gossip that I just, you know, maybe innocent, but also not so innocent. Let's be honest. We've all had those not so innocent moments. You are not gonna believe what I heard, right? Uh, it's ugly, didn't say it was pretty, secret sin, right? The disrespect for our husbands. I'm gonna tell one on myself here because this is a super safe space. And he is very well uh aware of this because I told him, uh, told on myself. So I don't know if you know this about me, but I am I'm an expert at something. Uh and what I uh my expertise uh is in the art of the eye roll. Okay. I am like masterful at it. If you ever want to like learn a good eye roll, come hang out with me. I'll teach you all the things. Not necessarily something I'm proud of. So let me let me set the stage first of all. Uh my husband and I have been married 19 years this fall. And probably it was about seven years ago, our kiddo was toddling around. And so the way our house is set up, like I can head up the stairs and he can be in the kitchen and I can roll my eyes at him and he will not see it. Like there's there's wall, there's a barrier. He I can, and I will not, I won't forget the day because it literally, I felt the Holy Spirit gut punch me and then like poke my heart really hard. Uh so I was walking upstairs and I I gave him like class A masterful eye roll. And I just felt the Holy Spirit shake me and say, no. And I'm like kind of arguing in my mind, like you, he didn't even see it. It wasn't actually disrespect if he didn't see it, is it? Well, it was it was complete and utter disrespect, and it was worse because he couldn't see it, and it was literal disrespect behind his back. Disrespect that I'd been getting away from. See what happens in those little eye roll moments when we think our husbands don't see is that bitterness and resentment and maybe even a little pride, like I got this better than you, starts to take hold in our hearts. And I just felt the Holy Spirit shake me. And I was like, oh, this is really bad. And so here's the thing about this, though. It didn't actually stop the desire to want to roll my eyes, right? That didn't go away. It's still seven-ish years later, 19 years into this marriage game, uh, it's still there. But now when it shows up, I can notice it and I cannot do it. And then I can tell my husband, uh, I really want to roll my eyes at you right now because I'm that frustrated. And I've had those conversations. It sounds weird to say it out loud, but like whatever. We I've had those conversations, and then we actually like talk about the frustration, right? You can't just sweep it under the rug. We actually talk about the awkward, uh, whatever, frustrated, angry, whatever emotions start to bubble up that make me want to roll my eyes. We talk about it, right? So that that sin in secret, the secret disrespect can't take root and create something bigger, a void that's bigger between me and my husband. See, it's not um, it's not a million things that break a marriage, it's tiny wedges and tiny eye rolls over time that start to divide and divide and divide, which is exactly what the enemy wants, right? So that's my example of when God saw what others didn't, and it's ugly, whatever. We all have our ugly stuff. So I hope that uh helped you and maybe was encouraging to you in the ugly. Now, I

David Chosen In Obscurity

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also want to point out I want to switch gears to where God sees the good. So God saw David, we're gonna get over, talk about King David again. God saw David day after day after day after day out in the field, tending the sheep, honing his craft with a slingshot. So when it was time, God's time, when it was time to face Goliath, first Samuel what 17, God knew David was prepared because he watched him hone his craft hour after hour after hour, day after day, day after day. God sees it all the ugly eye rolls and the secret sin and all the things, and he sees our greatness, he sees where we're obedient, he sees where we're walking in lockstep with his will. So in first Samuel 16, um Samuel assent to anoint the king. There's this guy named Jesse, David's dad. He brings out all of his sons, he brings out the strong ones, he brings out the super impressive ones. Go read it. I encourage you to. He brings out the ones that are so qualified to be king, these are the greatest that I have. First Samuel 16, verse 7. But the Lord said to Samuel, do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. He's talking about all the other sons. These are not it. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. This is a heart issue. It's not an outwardly qualified issue. It's not about degrees and um, you know, all the things, it's about the heart. It's not about stature and knowledge and networks and uh followers on the gram. It's about the heart. That's what God looks at. That's what matters to him. God sees the heart. And what I love about this part of the story is that David wasn't even in the lineup. Like he wasn't even considered. That's how uh if you're following me and watching this on YouTube, I'm using my air quotes, uh, unqualified David was, right? 1 Samuel 16, 11 to 13. We're gonna pop down to here. So he asked Jesse, are these all the sons you have? There is the youngest, Jesse answered. He is tending the sheep. Samuel said, send for him, and we will not sit until he arrives. Verse 12, so he sent for him and he had he had him brought in. Listen to this. This is hilarious. This makes me laugh. Who says the Bible isn't interesting? Listen to how they describe David. He was glowing with health and had a fine appearance and handsome features. Ladies, David was hot. Okay, that's what scripture is basically telling us because then it gets repeated a little while later. Anywho, uh, then the Lord said, Rise and anoint him. This is the one. Verse 13. So Samuel took the horn of oil and anointed him in the presence of his brothers, and from that day the spirit of the Lord came powerfully upon David. Samuel then went to Ramah. God chose David while he was doing his faithful everyday job in absolute obscurity out in a field. That's when God chose him. That's when God said, the time is now, right? David wasn't trying to be seen or get likes on the gram. He was uh head down, he was obedient, and God saw what people didn't. And just like they he what? Let me start that over. Just like God saw David out in that field, he sees you. He sees you in your everyday life, doing your everyday tasks and your everyday to-dos, being obedient, being a faithful, respectful wife, being a loving and doting mom, being a hard worker, whether it's in the home or out of the home or wherever your days take you. God sees it. God called you to this. That only you can accomplish. I hope that you're sitting there feeling encouraged because here's the thing about life. Sometimes it feels a little bit like Groundhog Day. Can I be honest about this? Sometimes it's like, okay, this again, right? This day, this job, this task, this thing, this marriage, these children, again and again and again. Sometimes it feels like that, and that's a quiet thing that nobody talks about. But, and in those moments, we can have hope and we can have encouragement in the everyday, ordinary moments. I bet David felt that way sometimes out there tending the sheep. I have to imagine he did. I have to imagine that some days he was like, this again, these crazy sheep again, gotta go fight a lion again, gotta go, you know, keep the sheep and gotta feed them again, day after day. He was a future king tending sheep. Don't let that be lost on you. There is encouragement in that. Don't ever scoff at humble beginnings, not your own, and definitely not someone else's. I tell my students all the time, you have no idea who's sitting next to you. You have no idea who's in car line next to you. You have no idea who's volunteering for the craft uh project at school next to you. You have no idea. God sees the things that others don't. So this leads us to the next thing: faith that starts long before the highlight reel ever gets posted.

Faith Before The Spotlight

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Faith that starts before the spotlight and the public call. Faith that starts long before any of that. This is Hebrews 11:1. Now, faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. And I know in uh previous messages I've gone through Hebrews 11.1, but I'm gonna do it again just for funsies because I think it's really helpful. Hebrews 11:1 talks about faith and action. So it goes through all of the people in scripture who by faith. So verse 3, we have by faith, we understand that the universe was formed at God's command. By faith, Abel brought God a better offering than Cain did. By faith, Enoch was taken from this life, so he didn't experience death. Verse 7, by faith, Noah, when warned about things not yet seen in holy fear, built the ark to save his family by faith. Abraham, when called to go to the place he would later receive as his inheritance, he obeyed and he went. Verse 11, by faith, our beloved Sarah, after childbearing years, had a baby. Verse 17, by faith, Abraham again. We see him when tested, offered Isaac his own son, his only son as a sacrifice by faith. Isaac blessed, oh, newsflash, uh, spoiler alert, uh, Isaac lived. Okay. Uh go go read that story. It's thrilling. I kid you not. Uh, verse 20, by faith, Isaac blessed Jacob and Esau in regard to their future. By faith, Jacob, when he was dying, blessed each of Joseph's sons. Verse 22, by faith, Joseph, when he was near the end of his, when he was near, when the what? When the end was near, he was dying. He spoke about the exodus of the Israelites. Uh, by faith, Moses' parents hid him, right? By faith, Moses, when he had grown up, refused to be known as the son of Pharaoh's daughter. By faith, he kept the Passover. By faith, the people passed through the Red Sea onto dry land. By faith, the walls of Jericho fell. By faith, the prostitute Rahab uh obeyed God, hid the spies, and it was listed in the lineage of Jesus. Don't tell me God can't change futures and storylines. By faith, that's how it works. And then we get to David, and he had absolutely no proof that he was going to be king, and yet he served so faithfully. Faith is showing up when other people don't. Faith is obedience when you don't know the outcome, but you trust God anyway. Faith is trusting when nothing around you, you literally look at your circumstances and nothing around you, nothing, is giving you confirmation of anything. It's faith.

Anointed Yet Still Serving

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After he was anointed and the spirit of the Lord came upon him. You know where David went? He went back out to the sheep. See, here's where we're different than David. I don't know about you. I'm gonna I'm gonna tell one on my side. I don't know if somebody anointed me queen that I'd be like, well, I'm gonna go back to my everyday life. Like, I have a kingdom to run here. What? No, not David. He's like, I have to imagine, I mean, I don't know, maybe he's like, Well, I don't have a direction from God, so I'm gonna go do the thing that I know to do, and that's tend the sheep, right? I'm I might have gone to the king and been like, excuse me, I have just been anointed. I would like my space here, uh, Mr. Saul, your majesty, right? No, he didn't. He went back to the place God told him. And we see this in 1 Samuel chapter 16, verses 14 to 19. Uh, we know he went back out there because the the uh this is talking about uh David and Saul's service. Now the spirit of the Lord had departed from Saul, right? He was king at the time, and an evil spirit from the Lord tormented him. Saul's attendants said to him, see, an evil spirit from God is tormenting you. Let our Lord command his servants here to search for someone who can play the lyre. That's a harp. He will play when the he will play when the evil spirit from God comes on you, and you will feel better. So Saul and his so Saul said to his attendants, Find someone who plays well and bring him to me. One of the servants answered, I have seen a son of Jesse of Bethlehem who knows how to play the harp. He is a brave man and a warrior. He speaks well and is fine looking, and the Lord is with him. Verse 19. Then Saul sent messengers to Jesse and said, Send me your son David, who is with the sheep. There's our evidence that he was out with the sheep. Right? I think it's interesting. An evil spirit from the Lord came on Saul, right? God was opening the door for David. There's an unformulated message around this that your position and where you are is in no way equal to the anointing on your life. We'll leave that there. We'll come back to it another day. It'll be great. This brings us to the last point.

Mustard Seed Faith Moves Mountains

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Uh small faith is what moves the big things. Tiny faith is what moves the big things. This is Matthew 17, verse 20. So um, this is when Jesus heals the demon possessed boy, and the disciples came and were like, Jesus, or uh, yeah, he they said to Jesus, why couldn't we drive it out? Why couldn't we get this demon to leave? And verse 20, Jesus replies, His words, because you have so little. Faith. Truly, I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, move from here, and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you. I went down a rabbit hole of uh mustard seeds here. Notice what Jesus didn't say. He doesn't say when your faith is perfect, when you stop doubting, when this happens, or when that happens, or when you accomplish this, or when you have the Bible memorized, or when you know scripture by heart. He doesn't say any of that. He doesn't say when your faith is is public or when your faith is big or when your faith is good. He doesn't put parameters around it. He says small faith. Tiny faith. Faith like a mustard seed. I have a for you watching on YouTube. I have a a thing for you. You see these? I think you can see those. You know what those are? My loves. Oh, is this backwards? I don't know. Those are mustard seeds. Okay. These, I bought them just for this illustration. My husband was like, what did you just Amazon to our home? They're mustard seeds. Oh I just dropped one. Hold on. Here they are. They're mustard. You can't even see it. It's so tiny. You can't. Look at that. That's it. That's how big your faith has to be. A mustard seed. Mustard seed size faith. That's all. David's life was built on tiny, small, consistent acts of faith. He protected those little baby dumb sheep. Also, sheep are dumb. I I desire to have a flock of them one day, but also they're uh they're dumb. It's like it's true. Sheep are not intelligent animals, right? Uh, and David just protected those little those little intelligence impaired sheep. Day after day, hour after hour, threat after threat, he protected them. They'd fall into a hole and he'd bind their wounds. He'd they'd get scratched up and he'd put the oil on their foreheads to, you know, heal up the scratches and the wounds. David played the harp for Saul. David looked, I am imagining. Can you imagine that the man anointed to be king is looking at this dude who's in his role, in his position, and he's serving him? Because David knew it wasn't time yet. God hadn't truly called him in the, he anointed him, he hadn't called him into that moment yet. So what'd David do? He had to serve. He had to serve the person in the position that he desired to be. Think about you people in uh in jobs where you're like, I could do this better than them. I can make this happen better than, but did God call you in that position? No. He called you to serve in the place you are because if you were supposed to be there, you would be. God uses it all for his plans and his purposes. David showed up obediently again and again before the grand event of Goliath. He was perfecting his faith daily. I believe without a doubt in my heart that David never would have been prepared to face Goliath and absolutely crush it. If he wouldn't have had day after day after day of obedience. The connection between all of these different passages is that faith is proven in a million tiny mustard seed moments. That's when our faith is proven. David didn't become faithful when he became king. He became king because he was faithful, because he went day after day and trusted

Where To Practice Faithfulness Today

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God. So the question for us here, thousands of years later, where's God asking you to be faithful right now? Only you can answer that. Where is the place where God is saying, do it again, and do it again, and do it again, and do it again in faith. Because you can't see the outcome and you can't see the next step, and you can't see the answers, but do it again. Maybe it's being your husband's helping partner, because they're going through a season. Maybe it's having integrity at work. Because remember, we don't work for man, we work for the Lord at the end of the day. Maybe it's trusting God with uncertain outcomes. Maybe it's being wise with your spending. Maybe it's being wise with your macros. Maybe it's being wise with your water intake. Maybe it's doing wise getting your exercise. Growing quietly day after day after day behind the scenes. I don't know what your faithfulness looks like in your life. But I do know that it might feel small. And lovelies, I think that's the entire point. Nothing happens from big grandiose beginnings. It all starts from small, seemingly insignificant beginnings. The day in and day out, moment after moment, day after day, obedient move after obedient move. I'm gonna use an example that all of us know the pounds on the scale. Not that it's ever about a number on the scale. It's not. It's about like your posture and how you feel and your heart posture and the way your clothes fit. So don't follow the number on the scale. But also, that's a helpful barometer for how we're doing sometimes, some days, right? Uh it doesn't fall off all at once. Not anything lasting, anyway, right? It happens consistent meal after consistent meal, meeting the macro after macro after macro after macro or calorie after calorie, however, whatever you count, whatever you do, right? Macros work for me. Anyway, different uh conversation for a different day. That kind of lasting transformation doesn't happen all at once, though we would love for it to, because as we scroll through our uh highlight reels on these little silly computers in our pockets that I wish we could all get rid of. That's all we see. We see the instantaneous, we see the businesses that get built overnight. None of that actually happens in real time. We're just getting fed lies that it does. We have to unwind, untangle that thinking. Faith doesn't start at the top, it begins quiet in lonely fields, in the wind, in the rain, and the sleet, in the dry seasons, and the parched land. Don't underestimate God, my loves. Because the same one that saw David in that field, the same God that told Samuel this is the one is the same God that put you right exactly where you are in your life, and he sees you right where you are. Where is God asking you to be faithful right now? That's it. That's a question you have to answer. My dear ones, I hope this was such an encouragement to your sometimes ordinary, sometimes mundane days.

Final Encouragement And Ways To Share

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We all have them. Come back next time. We're gonna throw more encouragement around like confetti. Be careful. If you get too close, you're definitely gonna get some on you.

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Have an awesome day. Cheers. Thank you for joining me, Desiree Melfi Bozo, for this episode of Life Out Loud. I would love to hear from you. Leave me a comment, tell me what topics you want to talk about, and how do you take your coffee? If you enjoyed what you heard, text a friend the link, share it on social media, or if you're interested in becoming a supporter, beep up over to my webpage, lifeoutloud.me, and sponsor a cup of coffee that keeps this podcast fueled. Until next time, sweet listeners.